Question of the Day

Do lesbians really get off on gay male porn? 

I saw the excellent The Kids are Alright over the weekend and was really confused by that scene.  Of course, I was more confused by...

SPOILER ALERT...SPOILER ALERT...if you haven't seen the move yet and haven't read any feminist blog reviews, don't read any further.  Seriously.  Stop.  If I could do that after-the-fold thing I would but I can't, so don't read any further...

...Julianne Moore's affair with a man.  Granted I'd do Mark Ruffalo in a heartbeat if he appeared at my door (and I wasn't madly in love with my husband), but why does Hollywood insist that all lesbians secretly want dick?  They really don't.  Maybe some do on occasion, female sexuality being such a mystery and all, but my (not exactly hands-on) experience is that most lesbians are quite happy without it.

Otherwise, it was a great movie and I highly recommend it.  It just would have made more sense if Julianne Moore had had an affair with a woman.   

In any case, can we just declare that Annette Benning will get the Oscar this year?  Finally?  She was funny and subtle and heartbreaking and very, very real.  She deserved it for "jerk yourself a soda" alone, much less Being Julia and The Grifters and American Beauty.  Don't even talk to me about competition from Hilary Swank's Marie rehash.  She stole that statuette from La Benning twice.  Third time belongs to Annette.

UPDATE:  Jacob Bernstein of The Daily Beast took the gay male porn question to some real-life lesbians and came up with some interesting answers. 

It's Not So Complicated

The hubby and I caught up on our movie watching over the weekend.  We saw Nine, A Single Man, and It's Complicated.  We enjoyed all three.

Nine was pretty darn fabulous.  Who knew Judi Dench could sing and dance?  I loved seeing Sophia Loren on screen, even if they didn't give her much to do.  Nicole Kidman was incredibly beautiful.  Penelope Cruz seemed to be having fun, Marion Cotillard was pitch-perfect, Fergie practically stopped the show, and I even liked Kate Hudson.  I thought it was a beautiful merging of stage to screen.  If you're a show-tune queen like me, go see it.
A Single Man was overwrought at times (the Psycho sign?  We get it, he's stressed), but Colin Firth's performance ripped my heart out.  It's wonderful to see a movie that honors a gay relationship and treats it with respect.  If you're in a shallow mood, go see it for Julianne Moore's fabulous 1962 hair, make-up and gown.  With a cape! Tom Ford is brilliant. 

It's Complicated was typical Nancy Myers fare.  A woman of a certain age with a stunning house, fascinating career, enviable girlfriends, and glowing skin is strangely unfulfilled.  During a white wine fueled gabfest with Mary Kay Place and Rita Wilson, she reveals that she hasn't gotten laid in years and oh my God have you tried the bruschetta?  Suddenly, she's being pursued by two terribly attractive men, one who forsakes a young babe to bang our old girl repeatedly and another who woos her sweetly.  Who will she choose? 

My disbelief ceased to be suspended during a scene with Meryl picking flawless tomatoes from her breathtaking vegetable garden.  We're supposed to believe that this single empty-nester with no apparent domestic help juggles a booming career, a huge home that she is expanding, and affairs with two men simultaneously all while maintaining the most amazing vegetable garden since Kathy Griffin visited Suzanne Somers?  Maybe I think about these things too much.  Watch it on DVD on some rainy afternoon when you're depressed and need a light pick-me-up.

I see a lot of movies.  Maybe I should write about them more often.  What do you think?